Demystifying Counselling

What is counselling?

Have you wondered what the process of counselling might be like? Do you recall a time in your life when you experienced difficulties and wanted to see a counsellor yet didn’t because you were nervous about what’s involved? I hear this comment a lot from clients, and realised there is a need to educate and demystify the process of counselling. Seeing a counsellor should not be wrapped in a shroud of mystery. In a nutshell counselling provides the opportunity for individual to explore their stressors and struggles in a non-judgemental and safe environment. The aim is to move from crisis and distress, to clarity and greater certainty. So how is this done exactly?

Some background might help to connect in the dots. Counselling falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’ and allows people to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they encounter in a safe, confidential environment. The term can mean different things to different people, but in general it is a process people seek when they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth.

A counsellor is not there to sit you down and tell you what to do – instead they will encourage you to talk about what’s bothering you in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking. The counsellor may then look to create a plan of action to either help you reconcile your issues or help you to find ways of coping.

Counselling does not come in a cookie-cutter format and each session is generally tailored to the individual. There is flexibility within this type of therapy that allows for a variety of counselling formats, including face-to-face, group counselling, couples counselling, telephone or on-line counselling.

What can counselling help with?
Counselling can be useful for anyone who wants to explore the way they’re thinking or feeling further, as well as anyone experiencing a problem or issue they are keen to resolve. People may choose to speak to a counsellor because they feel they cannot speak to their friends, families or partners about personal issues, or they may simply wish to speak to a professional with an objective viewpoint. Common subjects that can be addressed within counselling include the following:

Anxiety
Anxiety refers to feelings of worry, apprehension, nervousness that can have very strong physical symptoms. These include a rapid heartbeat, trembling/shaking, feeling faint, an upset stomach/nausea, sweating, restlessness, and difficulty concentrating. Counsellors use a range of evidence and mindful-based techniques that help manage the anxiety.

Addictions
Wherever there is a physical addiction to a substance or activity – there is likely to be a psychological addiction too. Counselling aims to relieve the psychological addiction by exploring the root cause while helping to develop new ways of thinking.

Bereavement
Losing a loved one is a difficult event in anyone’s life. The loss can bring up a wide range of emotions including guilt and anger. Some people benefit from speaking openly to a counsellor about their feelings to help ease the process and resolve any remaining issues they may have.

Bullying
Being the victim of any form of abuse, whether it’s verbal or physical can lead to issues that may affect you all of your life. Counselling can offer clients the chance to seek appropriate help as well as addressing the psychological repercussions in a safe environment.

Depression
Depression affects how you feel about yourself and the world. Things that once seemed easy begin to feel difficult, and it can be difficult to find joy in things that were once meaningful. A counsellor can help identify what in your life has led to depression, work out what its triggers are, and learn techniques towards managing it.

Illness
Suffering from a long-term illness such as cancer or dementia can turn anyone’s world upside down. Counselling can help sufferers come to terms with their illness while offering emotional support and coping mechanisms.

Mental health issues
Suffering from a mental health issue can feel incredibly isolating. Counselling looks to discuss the feelings that arise in conjunction with these kinds of mental health issues as well as overcome any personal challenges or frustrations.

Relationships
Covering all types of relationships, counselling can be used to discuss issues within families, friendships and couples. Problems include coping with separation to improving communication, recovering from an affair, dealing with family pressures, right through working with clients in abusive relationships.

Low Self –Esteem
People with low self-esteem regard themselves critically and may feel an ongoing sense of failure or lack of accomplishment. Feelings of low self-esteem are perpetuated by ongoing comparison to others and constant negative self-talk. Counselling helps to identify and recognize these negative patterns and provides tools to shift to more adaptive mindsets.

Stress
Stress is a psychological and physical reaction to the many demands life places on us. Between work, family commitments, responsibilities in the home, and paying the bills, it can feel as though stress is endless. Working with a counsellor can help give you the tools to care for yourself, find a healthy balance between work and play, and live a more meaningful, healthy life.

Trauma
Whether you’ve been involved in an accident or you have been the victim of abuse, the psychological impact of trauma can last years after the event itself. In a counselling session trauma clients are encouraged to explore their feelings regarding the incident, at their own pace, and look at how these experiences could be resolved or processed more fully.

How counselling can help?
The way counselling can help will depend on the person receiving the treatment. For many, the fact that counselling offers a safe and confidential environment to speak in is all it takes. Counselling offers you the space and freedom to explore your own thoughts with an unbiased party.

While counsellors may not give you concrete advice or a checklist of things to do to feel better, what they will do is help you uncover your own insight and understanding of your problems providing you with the tools which will help you to resolve them on your own.

In the majority of cases, a single session will not be enough to help overcome any issues you’re facing. Counselling is a journey, and it takes time and consistency to work effectively. Because of this, many people opt for regular counselling sessions to make the most of the process.

Counselling can help you understand yourself better and the way you think, which will ultimately help you develop a clearer understanding of your problems. The more armed with information you are, the easier it gradually becomes to navigate your way through any difficulties you are facing so that eventually you can come out the other side feeling more positive. Counselling can also help you understand other people’s point of view better, which can shed light onto the way you interpret words or actions.

Counselling often requires you to discuss upsetting emotions and painful memories. Bringing up these thoughts can feel difficult to start with but help to provide insights and understanding as the process unfolds.

To get the most from your counselling sessions you should aim to make them consistent. Some sessions will feel more helpful than others, but it is important to realise that everything your counsellor is doing is designed to help you in the long run, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the beginning.

It is also worth remembering that counselling is not a quick fix and that your counsellor will not be able to tell you what to do. The counselling process requires a strong relationship between you and your counsellor and a degree of commitment on your part – together these two elements create a successful method to help you resolve your issues.

If you find that you are struggling with a personal issues in your life seeing a counsellor at the Melbourne Counselling Centre can be very helpful. Click here to book a session.

Aisling Kinghan
Aisling Kinghan
2020-10-08
Anne is amazing, TRTP has changed my entire outlook on life, how I interact with people, and what I’m doing. In the few months since TRTP my life has honestly changed so much for the better, it’s beyond what I could have ever imagined. My friends and family are also noticing it! And amazingly, every day gets better. Thank you so much Anne!
Daniel Rodgers
Daniel Rodgers
2020-07-07
Working in the Health industry, Melbourne Counselling Centre is the first place we recommend all our patients with ongoing challenges.
Rick Saunders
Rick Saunders
2020-07-07
I would not hesitate to refer anyone seeking an effective solution to an ongoing mental health concern.
Poki Samuels
Poki Samuels
2020-03-31
Well all I can say is that Anne has helped me get through some of the anger And trauma Been built up inside of me for years and I have not known how to deal with it. She took me step by step on to see how I could overcome these issues that were holding me back on achieving some of my greatest goals in life. Thank you so much Anne 🙏🏾
Nathan Watson
Nathan Watson
2019-09-18
TRTP has completely changed the way I think about myself and the world around me. The changes have been extraordinary in such a short space of time. I suddenly find myself walking forward with a new set of positive core beliefs which others are noticing on a daily basis Anne supported me through the process with expertise, compassion and patience. TRTP really does offer you a new launch pad from which to embark on a new journey. I’m so grateful for having this opportunity to do this work with Anne
Daniela J
Daniela J
2019-06-14
I had been struggling with life and reliving my trauma for over 20 years, I tried everything and nothing worked. Finally I was referred to Anne, who took me through The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) as that is the process that helped shift the past and get you to a better place.  Words cannot express how she turned my life completely around. For once, I am actually excited about life, I am actually thinking about my future. I feel like my life has been reset, I have a second chance and I am developing my life the way I want it to be, rather than the influences I was brought up with. Anne, I am indebted to you, thank you so much.
Housam Ahmad
Housam Ahmad
2019-04-04
I recently visited Anne Serry because I was told to do a anger management course. I’m am happy to say that Anne help me and I am grateful. Anne also learns about your life digging so deep into the family and finding the right solution to help you through your problems. Enough said call her if you are experiencing bad habits or bad issues, she will break them down and help you solve your own problems. Thank you very much Anne Serry! I will defiantly call you if I have any other problems God bless
Anna Anasa
Anna Anasa
2019-03-23
Completing The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) with Anne has helped me profoundly. I feel free and less anxious around matters that used to overwhelm me, and my day-to-day experience is calmer and much less reactive. I can't thank Anne enough for this life-enhancing process!
Jess Taylor
Jess Taylor
2019-03-22
Anne took me through the step by step process of TRTP. It has completely resolved all my traumatic experiences that I haven’t been able to do by just talking to a professional . It’s a very powerful therapy that has changed my life . I can now be the happy positive person that I’m meant to be 😊😊