The pattern
Who you choose, what you miss in the first month, and what that pattern is protecting you from.
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Dating Coaching in Melbourne
Dating does not have to be a cycle of disappointment with better photographs.
Dating coaching with a qualified counsellor rather than a pickup coach. Work out what you are looking for, why the same pattern keeps repeating, and how to show up without dread.
50-minute sessionsCounsellor-led, not scriptedAll genders and orientationsOnline, phone or in person
$198 per 50-minute session, GST included. Full fees are on the packages and pricing page. Sessions run online by secure video across Australia and New Zealand, by telephone, or in person in Melbourne by arrangement.
In short
Dating coaching with a counsellor works on the pattern rather than the tactics: who you choose, what you overlook early, and the anxiety that makes you chase or disappear. There are no scripts and no routines. Sessions are 50 minutes at $198, GST included, for all genders and orientations.
Most dating advice is tactics: the profile, the opener, the third-date rule. Tactics help a little and explain nothing, which is why people who follow them well still end up in the same relationship with a different person.
This work goes at the pattern instead. Who you are drawn to and why, what you overlook early, what you tolerate late, and the anxiety that makes you either chase or disappear. Practical skills come with it — how to open, how to be direct about what you want, how to end something early and kindly.
This work helps when
- The same kind of relationship keeps repeating
- Apps have become a second job with no result
- You go quiet, or overwhelm, when you actually like someone
- A long relationship ended and dating has changed
- You want a partner and cannot say what you are looking for
What we work on together
Nerves and nerve
Dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and the confidence that comes from knowing your own standards.
Practical skills
Opening, being direct early, reading interest accurately, and ending things kindly and soon.
How the work unfolds
Attachment-informedCBT for dating anxietyValues clarificationReal-world practice
01
The history
Not a list of exes. The pattern across them, and the moments you knew and continued anyway.
02
What you are looking for
Values, not a checklist. Most people discover their checklist and their values disagree.
03
The anxiety
What happens in your body before a first date and after an unanswered message, and what to do with it.
04
Practise and review
Real dates between sessions, reviewed without judgement. This is where the shift actually happens.
Tactics explain nothing. The pattern in who you choose, and what you overlook in the first month, explains almost everything.
Anne Evans · Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Common questions
Is this pickup coaching?+
No. There are no scripts, no routines and no techniques aimed at persuading anyone. The work is on your pattern, your standards and your nerve, which is a slower route and the only one that changes the outcome.
Is it only for men?+
No. Anne works with all genders and orientations. Men often arrive for confidence and directness, women more often for pattern and standards, but both threads appear in most of the work.
Do I need to be dating already?+
No. Plenty of people start before rejoining the apps, particularly after a long relationship has ended. Starting first tends to make the first few months less demoralising.
More answers in the general FAQs, or ask Anne directly.
Often works alongside
Men’s Relationship Coaching
Emotional skills taught plainly, for men who want closeness and were never shown how.
Self Esteem & Confidence
Rebuild self-worth that holds when someone does not text back.
Separation & Divorce
Ending one relationship well is usually the first step towards the next.
Ready to start dating coaching?
Book online in under a minute, or send a question first — Anne answers her own enquiries.