Name the voice
Whose it is, when it started, and what it was originally protecting you from.
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Self Esteem & Confidence
Low self-worth is learned, which means it can be unlearned. We work on the voice, the evidence it ignores, and the behaviours that keep proving it right.
50-minute sessionsSchema-informedOnline, phone or in person
Per 50-minute session, plus GST. Full fees are on the packages and pricing page. Sessions run online by secure video across Australia and New Zealand, by telephone, or in person in Melbourne by arrangement.
Self-esteem tracks performance; self-worth is the baseline sense that you count regardless of output. People with low self-worth are often high performers, which is why the problem stays invisible — the achievement is real and the relief never arrives.
The work identifies the voice, traces where it was learned, and builds a fairer and more accurate one. Alongside that we change the behaviours that keep confirming it: over-apologising, over-functioning, saying yes automatically, and turning down what you actually want.
You might recognise
- Achieving a lot and feeling like a fraud
- Apologising for existing in ordinary conversations
- Turning down opportunities before anyone can refuse you
- Accepting treatment you would not accept for a friend
- A voice in your head no friend would ever use
What we work on together
Answer it accurately
Not affirmations — a fairer, evidence-based account you actually believe.
Change the proof
Boundaries, asking, and taking up space, so behaviour stops confirming the old belief.
How the work unfolds
Schema-informedCBTSelf-compassionBoundary work
01
Map the voice
What it says, when it started, and whose words it originally was.
02
Test it
Against evidence rather than affirmations. Self-worth built on slogans collapses under pressure.
03
Change the behaviour
Stop over-apologising, over-functioning and pre-emptively declining. Behaviour is what maintains the belief.
04
Hold the new floor
Boundaries and asking, practised until they stop feeling like arrogance.
“I stopped auditioning for a place I was already in.”
Client · self-esteem work
Common questions
Is low self-esteem the same as depression?+
No, though they travel together. Low self-worth is a belief about your value; depression is a mood state with physical symptoms.
Will this make me arrogant?+
No. People with genuine self-worth are usually easier to be around, not harder — they need less reassurance and take less offence.
How long does it take?+
Longer than a practical problem and shorter than you fear. Most people notice the voice losing authority within six to ten sessions.
More answers in the general FAQs, or ask Anne directly.
Often works alongside
Individual Counselling
One-to-one work to understand what is going on and decide what to do about it.
Depression Counselling
When everything takes more effort than it should, the way back is smaller and more specific than you think.
Anxiety Counselling
Turn the volume down on worry and get your decisions back from it.
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