Name it before it lands
Recognising the physical signal early, when there is still a choice about what happens next.
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Men’s Relationship Coaching
Many men want closeness and were never taught the skills for it. This is practical work on understanding emotion, communicating clearly and rebuilding trust.
50-minute sessionsPractical and directIndividual sessions
Per 50-minute session, plus GST. Full fees are on the packages and pricing page. Sessions run online by secure video across Australia and New Zealand, by telephone, or in person in Melbourne by arrangement.
Most men who come here are not emotionally absent. They are working with a toolkit they were handed at fourteen: fix it, minimise it, or leave the room. That toolkit performs well under pressure at work and badly in a relationship, and the gap is skills rather than character.
Sessions are direct and practical. We work on naming what you feel before it becomes anger or silence, on hearing a complaint without treating it as an attack, and on asking for what you need out loud — which is usually the part nobody ever demonstrated.
This work suits men who
- Are told they shut down, and cannot see it happening
- Want to fix the problem when their partner wants to be heard
- Feel criticised constantly and cannot say why
- Notice distance growing and have no language for it
- Have been asked to "work on themselves" and want to do it properly
What we work on together
Listen without defending
How to hear a complaint as information rather than a verdict, and stay in the room.
Ask out loud
Stating what you need clearly, which is a skill rather than a personality trait.
How the work unfolds
Practical and directEmotion literacyConflict repairIndividual sessions
01
What actually happens
Walk through a recent argument in slow motion — the body signal, the thought, the move you made.
02
Build the vocabulary
Naming states before they become anger or silence. This is a skill, and it is learnable at any age.
03
Practise the hard bits
Hearing a complaint without defending, and asking for what you need out loud.
04
Take it home
One specific change per week, reviewed honestly — including the weeks it did not happen.
“Nobody taught me any of this. Turns out it is not complicated, it is just unfamiliar.”
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Common questions
Is this therapy or coaching?+
Practical coaching, informed by counselling training. Where something deeper is driving the pattern, we name it and change track.
Do I have to talk about my childhood?+
Only where it explains something current. This is not a search for a wound.
My partner sent me. Is that a problem?+
No. Plenty of good work starts under duress. Being honest that you did not choose it is a fine first move.
More answers in the general FAQs, or ask Anne directly.
Often works alongside
Relationship Counselling
For couples who keep having the same argument, and want a different ending.
Anger Management Counselling
Understand the trigger, learn the pause. Court-recognised four-session program available.
Individual Counselling
One-to-one work to understand what is going on and decide what to do about it.
Ready to start with Men’s Relationship Coaching?
Book online in under a minute, or send a question first — Anne answers her own enquiries.